Acceptable on the First Date

OK, now that we have properly introduced ourselves to each other, let's go ahead and set up the first date. The first date is the toughest one because you are still in that introductory phase of the relationship and there are still some impressions to be made. Although you want things to be really nice, you shouldn't go "all out" on the first date because if you do, your bar will be set so high it will be tough to beat on the next go-round. Plus, you may prematurly give off a commitment vibe to your partner.

Start off with a lunch date at a family friendly, medium priced restaurant (Applebees, Chili's, T.G.I. Friday, etc.). Avoid the fast-food joints! You can start with a light appetizer - something the two of you can share. I would not recommend alcoholic beverages, but if you are over 21, use your discretion but I would advise against excessive drinking on the first date. For your entree, order something in line with a lunch menu item. Depending on who asked whom out on the date will determine who should pay the tab. Now, fellas, if you really like this woman and want to make a positive impression, you will offer to pay the whole tab even if she is the one who asked you on the date. Think about it: if you really don't like her, then why did you go out on the date in the first place?

If things seem to be going well, be sure to exchange contact information (phone numbers, email, etc.) so you can make arrangements for the next date. The next date can be more extravagant, but we will talk about that later. Make sure the lady gets home safely, give her a soft kiss on the cheek and let her know you look forward to talking with her again soon.

So, what is NOT acceptable on the first date: excessive alcohol, loud and lewd behavior and offers for sex. Remember, this is my take on this - I'm married and haven't been on a first date in quite some time. We want to hear your take on this topic. To reply, please click on the word "COMMENTS" below and let's hear your spin.