The Beauty Intimidation Factor

In a previous post, we discussed the reasons why men shy away from dating and/or marrying professional women.  Right now, we want to focus on a specific point somewhat related to this topic.  Consider the above mentioned professional woman who has just about everything going for her (well-educated, good job/career, own house, own car, etc.).  You want to make an attempt to inititate casual communication with this woman, but when you look at her, you mind just goes:  "She is drop dead gorgeous!  There's no way she is single.  If she is, why?"  You also may ask yourself, "Am I wasting my time trying to talk with this woman?  What would she see in me?  Am I up to her standards?" 

I am choosing to call this the Beauty Intimidation Factor (BIF).  How does BIF come into play when trying to make a move on a woman?  Ladies:  have you ever felt this way when trying to talk to a man?  Or, do you consider yourself in this category and feel you have had men not talk to you because of the BIF?  Should men just "man-up", overcome their fears and step up to the plate?  All men aren't really like this, or are they?  We need to hear your responses.  Click on the word COMMENTS below to leave your feedback. 

Reconciling with the Mistress

The husband has an affair. The mistress wants to reconcile with the wife. If you are the wife, how do you handle this delicate situation that can easily become explosive? We want to hear ALL points of view on this one! Please leave comments below. Thanks!

Silence or Arguments: Which is more golden?

You are having a discussion with your spouse/mate. Words and feelings are being exchanged and in the process, the conversation becomes heated. You are determined to get your point across and to make your feelings known - in great and intricate detail. When you finish expressing your thoughts, you turn to your mate looking for a response, but receive nothing but utter silence. You pause for a moment and may think, "He/she has nothing to say?; Why are they looking at me like I'm crazy?; Are they ignoring me?; Do they even care?"

There is an old adage that says, "silence is golden". This may be applicable in certain situations such as not responding to someone who is making disagreeable remarks about an issue; especially if you are at work or in a place where it would be awkward or uncomfortable to start a debate. However, many will agree that communication is a key element in maintaining a successful relationship. Instead of remaining silent and keeping all that vent up frustration inside until you reach the boiling point, your mate would rather see you express your feelings more immediately, even if it is in an argumentative fashion, so they'll know what is going on in your head and in your heart. Then, after the argument, when things simmer down a bit, you may be surprised to get a little post-argument make-up "treat" (bang bang bang).

When it comes to communication with your mate, silence is not golden but rather it is yellow like the color of piss. If your mate gives you the silent treatment during an argument, it feels like you are being pissed on. Now, let's hear your responses. Please click on the "COMMENTS" below and continue the conversation. All points of view welcome and encouraged. Thanks!